In the year ending March 2017, unfortunately an estimated 1.9 million adults aged 16 to 59 years experienced domestic abuse in the UK. It happens a lot more than you think and a lot of abusers are good at hiding what they really are. You may think that someone is a loving partner, but you don’t always know what is going on behind the scenes. All human beings have the right to live without fear and abuse in their lives. If you know someone who has been or is currently a victim of domestic violence, then they can make a claim through CICA UK.
How can you spot it?
Two women die each week as a result of domestic violence in the UK. It’s so important that you know how to spot an abusive relationship, although it’s not always easy. There are many different signs that you are in an abusive relationship including:
- Your partner becomes controlling, wants to know what you are doing, where you are going and who you are seeing all the time.
- Your partner stops you from seeing your friends, isolates you or stops you from communicating with anyone else.
- You avoid saying anything that you think would upset or anger your partner. You feel like you’re walking on eggshells when you’re around them.
- You start to dread being around them and dread them coming home.
- You find yourself agreeing with your partner, even though you wouldn’t have before.
- You start to become more critical of yourself. You start believing that you are not worthy of love or having a partner.
- You start feeling depressed or anxious, you become a shell of your former self.
These are also ways in which you can see that someone else is in an abusive relationship. If you’ve noticed a change in one of your friend’s behaviours or they have suddenly stopped talking to you or leaving the house as much, this could be a sign. You should reach out to them and let them know that they can confide in you.
How can you help someone in an abusive relationship?
If you think that someone you care about is in a bad relationship, the best thing that you can do is be there for them. It’s likely that they won’t recognise they’re in a bad relationship. This is often the situation in cases of domestic violence. Although your first instinct will be to protect your loved one, it can be dangerous to intervene. It takes an awful lot of strength and courage to walk away from an abusive relationship, so your support is vital. You should reach out to them and let them know that they can confide in you. You need to make sure that they know that you can be trusted and that you are there to support them.