Today, loving yourself seems like an act of rebellion all on its own. It is one of the hardest things for anyone to do. Looking at yourself in the mirror, and loving your flaws is something that few of us can accomplish. The secret is, however, is that you can change your flaws. You can want to improve your looks, your personality, and your talents. The only thing you need to make sure of is that when you want to improve these things, you want to improve them for yourself, and not for someone else. Here is why you need to love yourself first if you want to be happy:
- You Are Never Going to Be Perfect
First, we must accept that we are never going to be perfect. Perfection is a concept that is both impossible to achieve and boring. You want to be you because who you are is all you’ll ever need to be. Knowing you have flaws is different than accepting that while you may strive to improve yourself, you cannot strive for perfection. Perfection does not exist. It does not exist in others, and it will never exist in you. Who you are is more than enough – and it’s time to find people who think so, too.
- You Can Always Strive to be Better
Loving yourself does not mean accepting every flaw and insecurity that you have. Loving yourself means striving to be better for yourself. It means loving the flaws you can’t change. It means acknowledging that even if you want to change your appearance or your personality, it doesn’t mean you were defective to begin with. Being happy with how you look is so important. Being happy with who you are is the only way to be happy at all. If loving how you look means naturally enhancing your breasts through breast enhancements, then that’s fine. You don’t have to fight your insecurities – you are more than allowed to change them. Just make sure it is to make you happy, not someone else.
- It is Better to Love Your Changes
When you try to change something about yourself that you don’t like, it’s important to love your changes. Feeling insecure about not liking certain aspects of yourself isn’t for anyone’s benefit. You didn’t like something, and you changed it. This isn’t an admission of defeat, it is an effort towards bettering yourself. You wouldn’t fault someone for going to university to improve their knowledge and skills, and you shouldn’t fault yourself for changing habits and how you act for the better, either. The point is that you cared enough to become a better version of yourself.
Loving yourself is difficult. Some people never learn how, and some take decades to figure it out. On the road to loving yourself, it is important to realise that whether you love yourself, flaws included, or you love yourself by improving yourself, it doesn’t matter. What matters is you like who you have become, and who you will be tomorrow.